Dr. Dombeck, My husband and I are in marriage counseling for his affairs. He commits to working on our marriage one session, then wants out the next. He has been diagnosed with depression, but I think its more. He just told me he doesn't want a sexual relationship with me but loves me dearly. He says he needs intensity that I can't give. He doesn't want to leave for fear of abandonment. In his mind, he stays, he doesn't stay, he stays, he doesn't stay. I asked him last night if he knew his feelings or him mind, and he said no. He said he thought he was schizophrenic. This doesn't add up to the criteria for schizophrenia. I would say he could be borderline? He has abandonment issues from 10 years old. He moved out at 15. He needs constant excitement and reassurance, but then wants to leave. This is driving me crazy. It has been going on for 20 years. Please help me figure what's wrong with him. Thank you! Jay
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