I'm a well adjusted 40 year old gay male who was forced to ended an 18 year monogamous relationship with another man, due to alcoholism. Now, almost 10 month latter I have meet another 40 year old male and feel blessed. However, 'R' has addressed me by his former partners name, fortunately not in intimate moments. Mainly at times when he is thinking or discussing the past.. At first it was annoying and slightly irritating. I quickly pointed out my feelings on the matter and made my point clear. 'R' is articulate and extremely intelligent. On a weekend road trip we spoke about this past relationship. I felt he has too much anger and animosity for 'D', and possible he has not mentally moved on. Their relationship became somewhat violent at it's end, this leads me to believe 'R' may have had extremely deep emotions for the other guy that are not resolved. I do not fear them getting back together, I would like to know if I should ignore this little issue or if it is a sign of a deeper rooted problem.
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