Dear Anne.....I'm 18 years old and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 months, who is 19. Our arguing is so bad, and I feel like we are married. He has had a hard past, and comes from a family where he raised himself practically. Everyone he has known has let him down somehow, and women have lied to him. At least this is the excuse he gives me. Myself on the other hand, I come from a family where both parents have always been there, and for that I am very fortunate. The first couple of months of the relationship were wonderful. We had so many fun times and finally, things turned pretty serious. For the last 3 months, all he has been doing is obsessively accusing me of being a liar, and he can't trust me. I don't recall doing anything that could have made things come to this, and he says I haven't, yet he still has it in his head that he can't trust. He really wants to change this, and work on things because he wants us to stay together. And of course, if he can't trust me eventually, we will have to go our separate ways. He has this constant fear of me leaving or breaking his heart, and I'm trying to prove myself to him, which is becoming extremely hard. I've loved him enough to come this far, and things have gotten a little better since I gave him an ultimatum. I try really hard to do nice things for him, and to make him know he's deeply cared for. I just wish I could understand more on how to deal with this, and how to find a better solution. I would greatly appreciate your help.
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