My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. We both have a problem trusting each other and are constantly fighting. I have found messages from his female coworkers saying stuff like "hey sexy you have two hot and horny women waiting for you" also I have met four of his ex-girlfriends and his ex-wife because they are still poking in and out of his life. He lies to me a lot and recently I found he has been ordering porn on our cable on a monthly basis as well as on the internet. This bothers me a great deal because our sex life has been very unsatisfying. He has been turning me down more and more. When we do make love he usually stays behind me as if he doesn't want to look at me and a lot of the time he is unable to stay erect. I spent a lot of time consoling him that it was okay that it happens to lots of men. I was devastated to find he was doing the deed often, and without me. He begged me to forgive him and said he wouldn't do it anymore. I love him with everything I am and want to believe him but its so hard to trust him when he's lied so many times before. How can I help my insecurities so I don't drive him away as he does not like to be questioned and I cant seem to help it causing huge fights. What should I do?
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