I am in a relationship with a guy I love. He is good to me and sometimes I think 'yes, this is the one for me' but other times I am not so sure. For example we have been going out for 5 years (we are both 26) and he has never got me anything for Valentines day. We have had rows over this. It's not that I particularly want a card or chocolates but it's the fact that he would care enough to give me these things as a token of his affection. When I see my girlfriends receiving flowers from their guys I feel that there is obviously something wrong with me - that maybe I don't deserve to receive these things because I am not pretty/feminine enough etc. Then I tell myself not to be silly, that I do deserve these things but that this guy just doesn't believe in it. He thinks these type of things are silly and pointless. His attitude is 'you know I love you, why would you need a stupid card?' This is just one aspect of our relationship - generally we are best friends, love and respect each other but when this kind of thing happens I wonder if I am settling for someone who obviously won't/can't give me what I need? What kind of respect does he have for my feelings if he can't do a simple thing like this? Bear in mind that he finds it very difficult to talk about his feelings. please help. thanks.
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