My wife and I are good friends with another couple. The other couple has a home on the island where we live, but they are currently living out of state. My wife had an affair with the husband while he was staying at our house while in town on business. She says it was just one time, and she can't explain why it happened other than it was an "animal attraction." We love each other and are trying to keep our marriage together. I have two questions: First, is it OK for me to keep trying to get my wife to explore the reason(s) she was compelled to have an affair? Second, the wife from the other couple still does not know about the affair. Both my wife and the other husband are keeping the secret because they don't want her to get hurt. I understand this and agree she would be hurt if she were to find out. I am reminded of the affair everytime there is correspondence between my wife and the other wife, and it bothers me a great deal. There is no communication between my wife and the other husband. Am I too sensitive about this? Should my wife let the friendship go? Should someone tell the other wife?
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