I really need your help on a relationship that I am in. I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. We had been friends for two years before my last boyfriend cheated on me, and I became attracted to "T." We started going out and he treated me so well. After a month and a half, I told T that I was getting cold feet about jumping into another relationship too soon. I wanted to date other people, and one day I ended up sleeping with my ex (something which I completely regret); however I still continued seeing T. Realizing that T was what I was looking for in a man, I made a commitment to him. At first T was the sweetest most loving man. However, as the relationship progressed, he began to feel it was alright to act superior towards me, call me names, and became a very short tempered and irate man. I have been on an emotional roller coaster trying to be the patient girlfriend, however, there is only so much I can take. When he becomes irate I have to be very loving and "baby" him. When he begins to act obnoxious and call me names, I begin to cry, and he tells me that I am being too sensitive. I have discussed this with him many times, telling him that he needs to stop being so mean to me. Every time he tells me he is sorry, and won't ever do it again. One minute we can be the happiest most loving couple in the world. The next minute, he suddenly remembers that I had slept with my ex, and begins calling me names. I feel like he has no respect for me when he gets into his obnoxious moods. Yet there is a very vulnerable and loving side to him. I know that he needs me in his life. I am one of his only friends that he trusts. Anne, I can't take much more of being happy only half of the time, and feeling completely miserable the other half. I've been put into a position in a relationship that I can't adjust well to. Lately, I have wanted to give up on the relationship. I am even cautious talking on the phone now, because at any second I feel like what is a loving conversation could suddenly turn into another fight. We fight every day. I don't know what to do. Please help me.
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