I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. We were co-workers and acquaintances for 2 years before we dated. He also pursued me for those 2 years. We only started dating after we no longer worked together (one of my rules).
He treats me great. Never abusive, never leaves me to "hang with the boys" and other typical problems. However, we have quite a few differences that I feel are serious and may hinder our relationship.
I have a 9 year old daughter and don't want anymore children. There is a slight possibility that I will change my mind later, but it is very slight. I haven't told him about the slight chance I'll change my mind so as not to give him false hope if I don't change my mind. He does want children but is willing to make the sacrifice of not having any of his own, in order to be with me. I don't that is fair for him. And I am afraid that no matter how much he doesn't think so, that he will eventually resent me if we don't have a child together. His argument to that is that maybe because of his life choices that having children just isn't an option (he will be 37 soon).
We have polar opinions on political views, spending styles, some parenting issues, etc. I feel that he is negative with regard to life (irritated with co-workers, complains about work a lot, talks about others negatively) and this REALLY bothers me. Yet, my mistake is that I don't express these feelings. I don't know how.
So, I am looking into getting therapy for myself. I know I have my issues as well due to an awful marriage with a husband who cheated several times. I also know that my boyfriend has his issues from childhood as well.
If I get my personal therapy, and we get couple therapy, and if marriage comes around, we get family therapy, do you think there is a chance for us?
I really love him, but I'm scared to commit more to someone (as in marriage) and find out that we were never compatible in the first place. Please tell me what you think.
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