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Turn 2009 into the year for you! A tip from Albert Einstein and Quantum Physics on relationships and well-being

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: Jan 5th 2009

hands connected All our experience in the field of psychology and in our everyday lives tells us that social support is a key factor in being resilient during difficult times. How will we engage with others as 2008 ends and 2009 begins? How might we better understand the impact our relationships have on our well-being? It might be worthwhile to consider the words of Albert Einstein (1879-1955):

A human being is a part of the whole, called by us, "Universe," a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest -- a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. 

This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.

Many of us walk around feeling so disconnected and alone and it's difficult to comprehend how connected we really are.

In 1951, quantum physicist, David Bohm, wrote a book based on his hypothesis, Quantum Theory that would later prove our interconnectedness. In the book he said that if you were able to separate an atomic particle into two elements and send each to opposite ends of the world, then changing the spin of one would instantly change the spin of the other. Since this time, this theory has been repeatedly validated in empirical studies leading us closer to the understanding that while we can feel so separate and alone, we are all literally interconnected. This is no different than what many spiritual traditions have been saying for millennia.  

So consider this: If you want to feel healthier, happier, and more peaceful during this year, how can you help generate that in others? When they experience moments of joy, happiness, calm, or excitement, this may have a direct effect on you. Try it out for yourself, smile at the person checking out your groceries, be kind to the person at the post office, pay for someone's toll going over the bridge, say something nice to a stranger or friend. Try it out a few times.    

When you test it out, feel free to share your results below. If you have experience from the past with this share that. Your experiences can help others who come here. After all, science shows us how connected we really are.


Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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