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"So What's the Point?" Help with Finding the Answers...

Bill White Updated: Sep 15th 2010

tired woman with coffee cupWhen you roll out of bed to start your day, do you find yourself repeating, "So what's the point?" Well, it's a legitimate and relevant question - and one that begs for answers.

Are you up to the task?

The message here applies to everyone. But it's especially relevant to those enduring an emotional or mental health disorder.

Come on, we know all too well how difficult it can be to justify an existence of dragging through another day.

As you awaken - if you even slept - maybe you're facing a work or school day. You may have children to tend to, which is work times ten. Or maybe it's the reality of facing another day of being unemployed.

No matter - we need a reason to approach our day beyond, "'Cause that's what I do."

Think about it - wouldn't it feel great to actually have a mission as you get out of bed? And what about having something of meaning to reflect upon when it's time to hit the sack?

Let's work through an example using a common depressive presentation…

You haven't been sleeping well lately, and you're going through a spell of early morning awakening. Your eyes pop open at 4 a.m., but you don't have to prep for work for another two hours.

You've been having difficulty with motivation, and so many of the things that used to bring you pleasure are drawing blanks.

You've been pounding comfort foods and you've put on weight. Needless to say, any semblance of self-esteem took the last train for the coast, as you dread facing the mirror.

Finally, you feel so isolated and alone. And as much as it hurts, part of you is just fine with it.

Been there, people - promise.

Given that scenario, who could blame anyone for having a case of the "So what's the points?"

But we can't acquiesce to the bug. So instead of being defeated by our bundle of misery, we need to use it to find purpose and justification for living.

Here's what I mean...

True, you've been sleeping poorly and awakening at ungodly early hours. Take on the challenge of working smart toward ensuring a better night's sleep. It isn't going to happen "overnight," but you can chart your progress and revel in your improvement.

Yes, motivation and pleasure are tough to come by anymore. But see if you can find just one thing that either piques your interest or provides even a smidge of enjoyment. Again, chart your progress and be proud of your accomplishments.

Okay, so you're pounding comfort foods and have put on some weight. So formulate even a modest management plan and consider it a success if, say, you knock down one less Coke in a day. And go beyond not being pleased with your physical presence, to jotting-down what you know makes you special.

And so you're feeling isolated and lonely - and part of you is just fine with it. Still, muster-up even one small gesture of outreach. You may even be able to lend a hand to someone. It may be an email, a text, or a short phone call. No matter - do it, and reward yourself for your courage and kindness.

As I was recovering from my mood and anxiety issues I used the very strategy and techniques you just read. And to this very day; every night when I hit the sack I ask myself, "Bill, are you better off than you were last night?"

If the answer's, "Yes," I feel a great sense of accomplishment and peace. If it's, "No," I know my task for tomorrow.

Waking-up wondering, "What's the point?"

Look for it! It's there...

Bill White

After enduring decades of anxiety, depression, and alcoholism; Bill made it out of the woods. He found his life’s passion along the way, earned his counseling credentials, and is ready to lend a hand. Visit his blog at chipur.com, and you can contact Bill at bill@chipur.com.

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