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5 Steps to Connecting to the Good in Life

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: Nov 23rd 2010

If you haven’t given it intentional thought yet, make it a point right now to:


Take a Breath

Consider what in life you are grateful for…

It’s likely that half the people reading this right now will roll their eyes, saying, “Not that gratitude thing again.” This thought crashes down the experience to engage in something that research has proven will make us feel more satisfied with life.

Robert Emmons and Michael McCollough (2003) conducted a study a while back called Counting Blessings versus Burdens. He split up a few groups of people and had one group count 5 blessings per day, one group count 5 burdens per day and one group just write about neutral events. As you may have guessed, the ones who counted blessings, experienced less stress and more feelings associated with well being.

Thanksgiving is upon us and for some it is a time of celebration and for others it is a time of difficulty with family feuds or loneliness.

Thanksgiving by itself is not a good or bad holiday, but what it can be is a reminder to connect with some part of the good in your life.

Don’t let your automatic judgments mind enslave you and give this a shot.

Here are 5 steps to count your blessings:

  1. Count the blessings you have in this life. The more specific the better, rather than saying “health,” say how you feel healthy, for example, a strong heart, lungs, etc…

  2. Wish these blessings onto someone you care about in the form or, “May you be healthy” or whatever your blessing was.

  3. Wish these blessings to someone who is neutral in your life like the checkout clerk at your local grocery store.

  4. Wish these blessings onto someone you are having difficulty with.

  5. Wish these blessings onto the rest of the world.

This can take anywhere from 1 minute to 5 minutes, give it a shot; you got nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain.

As always, please share your thoughts, stories, and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom we can all benefit from 


Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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