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What is the Gift You're Meant to Give?

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: May 12th 2011

giftsEverybody at some point in their lives, and for some most of their lives, ponders the questions, “What am I doing here? Do I have a purpose? Or what’s the meaning of life?

Here’s a little exercise to try out:

Let’s imagine for a moment that each of us was put here on this planet on purpose, for a reason and there are no accidents. As best you can, put your lenses of judgment aside and just be curious about this thought.

What comes up for you?

For me, that means each of us has arrived on this planet with some gift to give. These are the intangible gifts that bring meaning to our lives. Even if the gift is only given to one person or animals, this may be your gift. You may not even be aware of the gift you’ve given as something you have done may have inspired or touched someone you may never have met.

Consider for a moment, are you empathetic, humorous, creative, stylish, well read, compassionate, athletic, spiritual or maybe good with words. Or maybe you’ve spend your attention as a teacher or in some support role helping other people or animals.

There are so many moments in a day where you come in contact with others and give gifts, often times without even knowing it.

Consider again that there are no accidents; you are here on purpose, what is the gift you’re meant to give and where are you giving it?

This is not a new age or floofy question. It is a question to help you get in touch with something inside that lifts you up and ignites aspects of psychological well-being. If your mind is going in that direction, be curious about it why it is so resistant to this. What does this exercise trigger? Is it uncomfortable to consider that you may actually have gifts to give? Sometimes we are married to our suffering, but we don’t need to be.

Give us some insights into what comes up for you. Your interaction below creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.


Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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