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Want to Make Change? Listen

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: May 26th 2011


secretMost of us have something in our lives that we’re either trying to change or wanting to change. Oprah Winfrey has spent 25 years growing the largest classroom known to man. I have to admit, it wasn’t until very recently that I tuned in, but in this short time she reminded me of a very important thing to consider when it comes to making changes in life.

Throughout the days of our lives, we often hear the words of change initially as whispers. They come very lightly causing us to pause for a second with a little information about what needs to change or how we need to change it. These whispers are not that sticky for the majority of us as our auto-pilot takes over and we continue on with the same habitual ways of thinking and behaving.

Then the whisper starts to get a little louder, maybe we get in trouble at work, or a friend stops returning calls, or we get a ticket for speeding. Then if these aren’t heeded, the whispers turn into shouting where the wall comes down, we get fired; lose the friend, or maybe a serious car accident.

Who’s whispering? You can think of this in many ways, if you’re religious, as Oprah is, you might think it is God whispering to you, if you’re not religious, you might think it is your higher self, that inner wisdom that knows what’s right for you. Either way, the whispers are there.

In my experience, mindfulness is a tremendous way to start priming the mind to be more aware of these whispers earlier. In mindfulness you are practicing attuning more to what is happening in the present moment where the whispers appear. You get more connected with your body that is constantly sending you signals of being balanced or imbalanced. You get better at not getting so caught up in the storms of the mind that can toss you into states of stress, anxiety, and depression.

Mindfulness teaches us to listen deeply to our lives.

I can’t think of anything more worthwhile to do. When we listen to our lives we get connected to what really matters to us and have a greater opportunity to take action with that.

But first we have to train ourselves to hear the whispers, why not start today?

Take a moment right now to practice mindfully checking in to your experience. Ask yourself, “Where am I starting from right now mentally, physically and emotionally?

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from. 


Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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Truth - Mida Olive - May 27th 2011

I do not believe in truth. I want to play in the world of possibilities. If god were truth it would be the end. If god were possibility god would be everything and all things. This is where I like to play. I want to share without judgement in open communication. I believe we have lost this ability to allow all voices, in search of a truth. For me truth is an end to inquiry. Truth is the end to any begining. I choose to whisper away depression or saddness or a smile. Why whisper away a smile? If you hold it to long it is a thing trapped. If it is a thing of the moment there is no need for a cage.When there is no need to hold the smile there is no need to hold the pain. Both will visit again. Whisper away!

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