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Life: Bringing Back the Missing Puzzle Pieces

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: Jun 14th 2011

puzzle pieceLife is filled with an endless in-basket of responsibilities and as we allow our invaluable resource of attention to keep spinning on the hamster wheel life floats on by. This isn’t meant to be a drab statement, but more one to bring us to the realization that we often get caught up in certain areas of focusing our attention and at times it’s worth recalibrating to bring back the missing puzzle pieces. I was recently telling a friend about a small accident my 2 year old son was in and she repeated to me something I’ve heard from almost everybody, “soak it in, it goes by so fast. My kid is already going to college and I wonder how it went by so fast.”

I want to invite you in this moment as you’re reading this to consider what really matters to you in this life? Is it spending time with friends and family? Is it living by your values? Is it bringing music into your life? Is it succeeding at your job?

Let me put it another way that might help gain perspective on this. If you were, many years from now, lying down on your deathbed, what do you wish you would have done differently?

Really take a moment with the above question and see what arises.

How can you bring the intentional attention to whatever this is?

First, you have to recognize that you’re going against the grain. There’s an algorithm in your brain that makes life routine. What this means is that whatever intention you set will likely begin to wander away just like you no longer see the art on your walls at home because your brain has habituated to them. So the intention is no longer at the forefront.

What would happen if every morning that you woke up, you spent a few minutes reminding yourself of your top intentions for this day? Even better, what would happen if you intentionally set aside 1 minute, three times a day and reminded yourself of what really matters to you in this world?

If you’re a doctoral student in psychology, this is a wonderful idea for a research topic, but for the rest of us, this is a wonderful idea for a real life practical way to begin getting in touch with what really matters in our lives and living it.

Ask yourself right now, why wait to enliven the missing puzzle pieces of your life? Isn’t this the only time we have? What will change tomorrow or next year that will make it a better time.

If you can spare the moment, please share what really matters to you below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from. 

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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