A Phrase to Save Your Day
If there’s one thing we can count on in life it’s that there will always be ups and downs. Nothing is permanent, but when we’re in it, especially when we’re down, we mistakenly believe that this is the way things are going to be forever. There’s a great phrase that I adapted from the late Richard Carlson, author of Don't Sweat the Small Stuff and It's All Small Stuff that is a great support to me in getting through the lows and appreciating the highs.
Be grateful during the good times and graceful during the more difficult times.
This sentence epitomizes the reality of life and helps us pop out of the auto-pilot or the routine of life and recognize what’s here.
I think it was Thich Nhat Hanh that said, “We don’t notice our teeth when they’re feeling well, but we notice the tooth ache.”
How true this is. How can we acknowledge that our teeth are feeling well, acknowledge the good things in life while they’re there without having to wait until they’re gone only to lament and be nostalgic for the “good times.”
On the flipside, during the difficult times this phrase can help remind us that this is temporary and pop us out of the inevitable need to fix the difficulty which only pours anxiety on the problem. We can ask ourselves, “What can I do to make this easier on myself while this difficult time is here? How can I be kinder and more compassionate to myself?”
If you recognize the difficult time for what it is, just that, a difficult time that is here now and eventually will pass you can begin to treat yourself well. One way to think of it is as if you have a cold or the flu. During these times what’s best is to lay low, drink tea and eat some chicken soup. It’s helpful if you have someone around who can care for you too.
In this same vein, you can choose things to do that are healing and perhaps reach out to a friend for support. The fighting and fixing that goes on in the mind is the product of the fear that this state is somehow permanent, which is ultimately untrue.
Take this phrase with you, may it bring wonder and ease.
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