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Start Now: 3 Steps to Success in the New Year

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: Nov 15th 2011

jumping manThis is the time of year that people are preparing for the holidays, in some ways many are already on holiday in their minds, checked out a bit to their work or perhaps beginning to check in to the idea of taking care of themselves. Maybe this is a time of considering the New Year’s Resolutions. There have been a lot of people who say, “I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions” because it’s almost become a cliché at this point. People make them, but they don’t really last. I want to challenge that, what if today was the beginning of making a resolution that sticks. 

Here’s how to make that happen in 3 steps:

  1. What is it? - Decide what it is you want to make change with. Is it exercise, guitar, meditation, putting yourself out there to find a partner? 

  2. Make a plan - Do you want to dedicate 5, 10, or 30 minutes or more a day to it? Is this a daily practice or a few times a week? What’s the strategy here? 

  3. Forgive and Invite – Expect yourself to fall off the wagon. This is where we usually get pinched. We fall off the wagon and then come the automatic negative thoughts, “I knew I could never do it or what’s the point.” We then feel so beaten down and hopeless about it that we just stop. Instead, forgive yourself for the time gone by and invite yourself in that space of awareness to choose to get back on the wagon. You may do this hundreds of times. 

That’s it; the New Year’s Resolution doesn’t have to fail because the reality is you can always begin again. 

Why not use this as a time to reflect on the last year and reset your intentions for the upcoming year. Maybe there are many opportunities throughout the year to make resolutions; this is just one of them. 

Take these 3 steps seriously, but not too seriously and begin now. 

Why not, at the end of the day there’s no other time. 

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom that we can all benefit from. 

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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