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A 3 Day Plan to Break Free from IrritationElisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: May 18th 2012
Irritation is a part of everyday life and it is adaptive in some ways. It gives us information and at times, motivation to change a situation. However, most of the time, our minds get stuck in habitual ways of relating to people and events that bring up irritation, creating a sense of everyday suffering. In other words, irritation itself becomes a habit.
Krishnamurti was a teacher and philosopher, some would say a man of wisdom and he said, “It will take 3 days to rid yourself of this habit energy.”
Day 1: Spend the entire day focusing on what it is like to be irritated. Notice in the morning, afternoon and evening. What does it feel like in your body? What kind of thoughts arise in the mind? Become intimate with the feeling of irritation, get to know it, befriend it.
Day 2: Spend the entire day noticing irritation in others. Look for it, what does it look like on their faces and their body language. Notice the tone of voice that is used and what kind of language comes out of the mouth. What behavior comes from this emotional space of irritation? Study it.
Day 3: Notice the recession of irritation in yourself.
This may sound crazy, but consider it. What happens when you stare irritation in the eye? You begin relating to it instead of from it. In other words a space is created between your awareness and irritation itself. When you touch this space, this is The Now Effect, a moment of clarity and choice where new possibilities and freedoms arise.
In this case, you begin to recognize that in automatic ways you've been maintaining this habit of irritation by the way you've been relating to it. When you face it, you break the cycle of thoughts, emotions and sensations and something begins to shift and follow the natural course of coming and going.
You might even grow your awareness to notice how others get irritated by seemingly little things, the small stuff.
Give this a shot and enjoy your new freedom of mind.
As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction provides a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.
Ittitation Level - Aarohi - Feb 16th 2015
Dear Sir / Madam
When someones is already feeling irritiated how can we expect to follow A 3 Day plan , it wont give instent relif.
there has ho have come way out for instent mental relif.
Regards
IRRITATION IS NATURAL - manubhai - Nov 17th 2014
IRRITATION COMES LIKE SEA WAVES IN THE MIND. IT IS NATURAL. BUT WHY ONE WILL BE AFFECTED BY THE EXTERNAL IRRITATION. IF THE SOURCE OF IRRITATION IS THE SELF THEN THE INDIVIDUAL WILL GET THE RESULT OF THE IRRITATION. THE WISE IS WISE. ONE WHO IS NON RECTIVE TO ANY EXTERNAL SOUCES OF IRRITATION IS CALLED AS WISE. THIS IS MY DEFINATION.
IN THIS EARTH THEIR ARE ANIMALS & MATERIALS WHO ARE THE SOURCE OF IRRITATION. ONE CANNOT CHANGE THEM . ONLY ONE CAN CHANGE OWN ATTITUDE. NON REACTIVE TO ANY TYPE OF EXTERNAL SOURCE OF IRRITATION, TEMPATION IS POSSIBLE. THANK YOU.
REGARDS TO ALL.
MANUBHAI
what exactly are the instructions for day three - John Doe m 29 - Oct 15th 2014
Days one and two make sense to me, however day three I'm not sure what I'm suppose to do. What do I stair into the mirror or, what does it mean to stare into the face or irritation... please give scientific instrucitons because death seems so nice.
thanks,
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