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Elisa Goldstein, Ph.D.Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.
A blog about mindfulness, stress-reduction, psychotherapy and mental health.

Before Your Speak...Think!

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: Oct 2nd 2012

We’ve all experienced it. It’s the moment we say something and as the last syllables leave our lips our brain has figured out we put our foot in our mouths and reaches to take them back, but it’s too late. The fact is we often time don’t think before we speak. Our words become actions and actions become consequences. Unfortunately the consequences land us in relationship problems, a blown business deal, or just the general reinforcement of unhealthy mind traps. But what if I told you there’s a way to fix this. 

Here’s the formula: 

is it true

Just consider, what would the days, weeks and months ahead look like if before we all spoke we considered, 

 

  • Is it true?

  • Is it helpful?

  • Is it inspiring?

  • Is it necessary?

  • Is it kind? 

 

These a questions that one might say are inspired by the world’s wisdom traditions and have great relevance to our relationships today. 

In this emerging world where we’re quick to fire off texts, tweets and facebook messages, it might be more important than ever to consider these questions. In fact, you might argue that we have more space to do so if we’re typing something out. 

But I challenge you to bring this into your lives at home, work and within the internet. 

Why not practice something that not only will make you feel good, but encourage others to do the same. 

Imagine the ripple effects. 

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from. 

 

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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