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Elisa Goldstein, Ph.D.Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.
A blog about mindfulness, stress-reduction, psychotherapy and mental health.

Be Sure to Taste Your Words

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: Oct 18th 2012

 

wordsYears ago when I was a teenager I was known for having a pretty foul mouth. That may surprise some of you who have come to know me through my writings or even those who know me more intimately today. But, even at that time I recognized that having a foul mouth may be adding to a feeling of suffering that seemed ever present. So I tried an experiment and what I found was astounding. 

I decided to get rid of all curse words in my vocabulary. I replaced some with more neutral words for example, for the infamous four letter word I replaced it with “flip” and “flippin’.” Sounds silly and I was even teased a bit by my closest friends but I noticed in short time that I actually began to feel a bit better. 

Consider the notion that when you spit out words that are in bad taste, the people around you taste it too. 

So, if you’re someone who does have a foul mouth like I had I challenge you to this experiment, but we can even take it further. 

A short time ago I wrote a blog titled, “Before You Speak…Think!”

Let’s even be selfish here for a moment. Forget about the impact the words you say have on others, consider the impact they have on you. 

I write to promote mental health, to prevent relapse into anxiety, depression, addiction, and trauma. It’s my experience that the language we use impacts our mental health in the same way that the negative voices inside our heads impact us. 

This is just a simple challenge:

Consider if there are any negative words you’d like to practice deleting from your vocabulary. Find a replacement for them to play with. Or maybe there’s a certain way you speak to certain people in your life that you’d like to change. 

Why not practice, treat this as an experiment and see what you find. 

You are the ultimate scientist of your life. 

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from. 

 

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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