Want Relief? Spread It Out
When it comes to the emotional challenges of our lives one of the first thing the brain does is contract and makes us self-absorbed. This make sense, we have to focus on ourselves to fix our problems. But this strategy has some unfortunate side effects. One critical one is feeling disconnected and alone and this in and of itself is a form of dis-ease. Getting re-balanced is about feeling connected and there are things we can do to correct this neural malfunction.
Spread it out.
Whether the emotional suffering comes in the form of stress at work, frustration with our kids, or ambiguous anxious attacks that hit us when we least expect it, the bottom line is that in that moment the brain is disconnected and operating mainly from its emotional center. It’s a painful mode of self-referencing that reinforces stories that continue to spiral the flavor of the mood that is fueling it.
The fact is we are suffering and it’s worth acknowledging.
The moment we acknowledge we are suffering we’ve stepped into a space of awareness to choose a healthier response. This is what’s called The Now Effect.
The healthier response might be to place our hands where the emotional pain is, knowing that research has shown that the when the brain maps sensation it turns the volume down on the storytelling.
Then we can spread it out.
This means considering all the other people who have or perhaps in the moment are experiencing that form of suffering and wish them well, to feel at ease, to feel safe and protected, to be at peace.
This is furthering the process of getting out of our mind and into the world.
There’s a healing element that enters our minds when we begin to experience connection and this is one way of facilitating that.
But don’t take my word for it. Set your judgments aside, try it for yourself and let your experience be your guide.
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