My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Two months ago we started to live together. He was living with his 23 year old son at the time. Also, they both work together in a business that is open for lunch and again in the evenings. The son has continued living in the house they both lived in before he and I moved in together.
The evening that my boyfriend moved in with me, his son called to say "Dad, you've replaced me with her." It was supposed to be a special night for us. But, he tends to call even in the middle of the night and his dad never gets upset about being woken up over nothing. I think it is rude.
Now that my boyfriend finally put some distance between him and his son by moving in with me, I thought we were finally going in the right direction. Instead, I am very disappointed that he leaves our house at 7:30 AM every morning and says he's going to work...which really means he's hanging out at his son's house until they car-pool together to work at 11:00 AM.
I feel that my boyfriend is getting all of his emotional intimacy from his son. I feel neglected. How can I let him know that his intense closeness to his son is ruining our relationship? If he got together at his son's house once a week I could handle it but every day is just over the top. The constant phone calls between him and his son, when we are together, are also annoying and it makes me feel like an outsider.
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