What is the right path of action?
I have been taking singing lessons for several years and have a very close relationship with my teacher. The problem is, she is trying to turn me into a diva, planning concerts for us etc. and I just did not say no. I love singing and her recognition of my talent is very flattering to me, but I get very anxious when performing. I do not want to disappoint her or let her down. I also feel, that maybe I should be wanting this and feel guilty for the fact that I have no ambition. The concert is planned for June, but nothing is etched in stone yet. I feel pressured to perform and spend quite a bit of money on the preparations. I would like to bail out and tell her how I really feel. On the other hand, I want to keep her as a friend and I don\'t want to be considered a looser. A small part of me is mad as well. After all, the concert is her idea and why should I invest so much for something that is pleasing to her, but not me. My local friend and family are no big help. They cannot understand, why someone with my talent would not want to be a start. It seems to be the story of my life to fufill everybody else\'s ambitions because I have none, but I have the talent. Could you please clarify this whole thing? I am confused.
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