Dr. Schwartz: I have been married to a wonderful woman for almost a year now. She has a 14 child who lives with us. The child is from her previous marriage. The 14 year old girl acts very well and balanced in front of me, but secretly and constantly asks her mom questions like: "who do you love more, him or me?" or, "I dont think you love me mom" and things of that nature. Her mom always reassures her and tries to help her understand the different kinds of love but the girl continues on. It is causing a lot of depression in my wife,to the point that she says she will not be able to continue this way, and is even starting to lose hope in the relationship, feeling that she is being put in a "my daughter or my husband" situation and feels hopelessness and becomes depressed and unresponsive,"doom and gloom." The child refuses to see a counselor. Any advice? --RA.
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