I have been seeing a man for over three years. Our relationship has always been filled with many ups and downs. Although we began in a normal relationship that included sex - he is unable to orgasm - won't talk about it - I can't even broach the subject - he made it seem that the problem was mine or me. I have strongly suggested we break off the relationship several times - I feel like his buddy or brother and I don't want that. Unfortunately, he is like a bad penny and just keeps turning up. Every time I suggest we not see each other he becomes the most wonderful companion (minus sex of course). I truly believe he suffers from a narcissistic personality disorder. He fits all the symptoms to a T. Further, he is extremely moody and obsessive. I'm sure you are asking why I hang out with this guy. I ask myself the same question over and over, surely that puts me in a personality disorder category myself. Actually, I really love and enjoy him (much of the time). Although he has hurt me many times, he is so reminiscent of the parents I grew up with that I almost think it's normal! I am a 52 year old woman, and therefore, probably think that I have to hang on to what I have - it's hard to compete with all those 20 year olds who are looking for a father. He is 54. I would rather be able to help him. It really wouldn't matter to me if I helped him so he could have a good relationship with someone else or with me. I have resigned myself to the fact that this is never going to work out.
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