When I split up with my husband three years ago, I turned to a married man at work for advice and comfort. We became involved. He stood by me through my separation, divorce, and custody battle. I fell hopelessly in love with him. We had only a limited sexual relationship because of my problems, but we saw each other at work every day. We talked about the day when my divorce would be final, and I wouldn't have to worry about being caught. He was honest about the fact that he was not going to leave his wife and children for me, but did promise me that when I was free to date, we would see each other outside work. However, when that day came, he told me he couldn't cheat on his wife. He told me that it made him feel too guilty. I am having a terrible time dealing with the rejection. I still see him every day. I love him so much. I can't get over it. He still wants to be close, intimate friends at work, but will not see me outside of work. I feel guilty for trying to talk him into having an affair. I know he is doing the right thing, but at the same time I feel cheated out of what I had my heart set on - being with him alone at my house. Making love in a bed without being rushed or afraid of someone walking in on us. What can I do? I can't leave him alone. I can't get another job either.
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