My husband's first wife had an affair with his brother while they were still married. They are now married and we all live in the same town. My husband and his ex have two children 14 and 11. For the sake of the children, we all get along. My husband is a very forgiving man and has gone on with his life. I was not around when the affair was going on. I do not care for his ex or brother, but I get along for the sake of the children. My problem is I can't get over my husband getting along with his ex after what she did to him. I know my husband loves me, but I keep accusing him of still loving her. She is short, thin and pretty, whereas I perceive myself as fat and ugly. I can't believe my husband would want me over her. He gets extremely upset when I accuse him of still wanting her. His ex and brother have lots of marital problems and they each come to my husband for advice (which I feel is really ironic). How do I get over this insane jealousy of his ex before it ruins our marriage? The children are very attached to their mother and you have to get along with the mother or else the children will hate you. My husband has a hard time sticking up for himself against his ex because she will turn the children against him. So he feels he must do whatever she says.
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