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Feeling Really Alienated From My Sensitive Male Self

I read that women are attracted to men who are "bad boys." Why? Apparently, according to evolutionary psychology (which I believe in), strong, confident, masculine males are a turn-on. This makes sense. I don't think our genes are going to catch up to the fact that we are living in an age of WMDs, toughness and strength are genetically desirable male traits. I am just feeling really alienated from my "sensitive" male self. I like women, but I also like all these things like nature and art and hold all these overcivilized values that almost totally define me, until now. Something is really missing and maybe its too late to put it there. I have done enough reading about this to know that "accepting my self as I am" isn't going to make me more attractive to the people who attract me physically. In some ways I feel screwed by the supposedly liberating era in which I grew up, especially as a liberal-activist type. There is real unspoken hypocracy about what women want. But more deeply, reading about these issues makes me not like being myself, the only person I know how to be.

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