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How to Flood Your Life With Confidence

Steve Pavilanis Updated: Nov 3rd 2010

When you're feeling anxious and depressed, your self-confidence takes a nosedive. You don't feel up to facing any challenges or pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone. You tell yourself that once you start feeling better and more confident, then you’ll be ready to conquer your fears.

believe in yourself signThe tricky part is that we’re never really “ready” to face our fears. Instead, we have to muster up the courage to push ourselves towards our fears. Once we do this, the confidence flows like a waterfall!

I’ll say it loud and clear: Voluntarily facing your fears is the BEST way to build self-confidence and belief in yourself.

Here's an example from my conquer my fear of riding crowded trains at rush hour in Chicago, I started small. I began riding the train just a few stops over my lunch break when it was mostly empty. I gradually increased the difficulty over several weeks, riding trains with more passengers for longer rides, building my confidence. Eventually, I graduated to riding packed trains at rush hour with little difficulty.

The day may never come when you wake up and magically feel up to finally facing your greatest fears. It just doesn't work that way. Instead, start pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone every day taking baby steps. Each small victory conjures up positive feelings and belief in yourself, which continues to build as you repeat this process and tackle more challenging situations.

So remember, don’t wait until you feel “ready” to start facing your fears. Start today by pushing yourself a little and continue to push further every day. You will see firsthand that once you take action, confidence will flood into your life.


Steve Pavilanis

Steve Pavilanis is a normal everyday guy who suffered from extreme social anxiety and panic attacks for over five years. With great determination, research, and trial and error, he has taken his life back, returning to a healthy state of wholeness and optimism. Steve now helps others through their struggles with his book, "A Life Less Anxious: Freedom from panic attacks and social anxiety without drugs or therapy", speaking, coaching, and blog.

From his own experience of overcoming debilitating anxiety, Steve shows you how to calm yourself using proven mental and physical techniques including meditation, avoid common faulty thinking traps, make life changes that encourage a more peaceful mind, and how to face and overcome your fears and achieve more freedom in your life. For more information please visit

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