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Take My Advice, I'm Not Using It

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Updated: Feb 17th 2011

take my adviceI was recently reminded of a funny saying by Bill Alexander, author of Ordinary Recovery. He said he wears a T-Shirt that says, “Take my advice, I’m not using it.” The reason this shirt is so funny to most of us is because this is so prevalent. It’s the overweight cardiologist who eats a glazed donut before work, it’s the stressed out Psychologist whose life seems in disarray, it’s the pill addicted fitness trainer who repeatedly destroying his body,  the financial analyst who lives on a line of credit, or the codependent friend who says, “you got take care of yourself.”

What is it about our inability to take our own advice?

The answer is either we don’t believe our own advice actually works or that we get so stuck in habitual ways of reacting to life that there’s no awareness to step outside of it and choose a healthier response.

For most people, I’ll side with the latter.

The fact is, we all have wisdom inside of us, at some level, we all know what is healthy and unhealthy if we just stop and listen for a moment or two.

What would it be like if for one week, you chose to take your own advice?


Pick an area, mental health, physical health, money, or relationship. If you were your friend what advice would you give yourself?

What’s it going to be?

If your mind is saying “No!” to this, then you might as well Click Here and buy your own T-Shirt, hat, coffee mug or bumper sticker.

As always, please share what your advice would be below. Your thoughts, ideas and stories are a living wisdom we can all benefit from.



Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of the upcoming book The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations.

Check out Dr. Goldstein's acclaimed CD's on Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression, Mindful Solutions for Addiction and RelapsePrevention, and Mindful Solutions for Success and Stress Reduction at Work. -- "They are so relevant, I have marked them as one of my favorites on a handout I give to all new clients" ~ Psychiatrist.

If you're wanting to integrate more mindfulness into your daily life, sign up for his Mindful Living Twitter Feed. Dr. Goldstein is also available for private psychotherapy.

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old-fashioned laziness - Robin Kahler - Feb 21st 2011

Love this tee shirt! My thoughts are that we don't take our own advice out of old-fashioned laziness. It's an on growing condition that I wrote about in my own blog this month, and a trait that I need to work on myself.

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