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Is the Stress Carrier a Modern Day Vampire? - Part II

Mark Gorkin, LCSW ("The Stress Doc") Updated: Aug 8th 2013

Do you allow an invader to become a "stress carrier"?
One who never gets ulcers; only gives them to others.
So how to disarm that blame-throwing charm:
When s/he is sad, it's, "You made me feel bad!"
A coiled tongue and blood lips launch many guilt trips.
There's but one loser to a mental "acc-you-ser" -
Not seeing their view, "You haven't a clue."
For life's "black or white," and God knows they are right!

Some play a trick song; they string you along
Acting so shyly, then "Oh, really" so slyly.
Now in ten seconds flat, "You cannot believe that."
Before dropping the gong: "I think…you are so wrong!"
Some are more subtle, allowing rebuttal.
Eyes gazing calmly, smiling so warmly
Of course, paying no mind, they'll pay you in kind:
With a low-key attack: a text in your back.

So the name of the game is shifting the blame
For like a vampire, who won't let you expire…
He keeps you alive, so that ego can thrive
Injecting his shame while choking your flame.
For him it's full moon, for you the cocoon.

Please, don't give up hope; there's breakaway rope.
The very first choice: trust in your voice...then
To outsmart this trap: grab the next Rap!


Mark Gorkin, LCSW (

Mark Gorkin, the Stress Doc ™, acclaimed Keynote and Kickoff Speaker, Webinar Presenter, Retreat Leader and Motivational Humorist, is the author of Practice Safe Stress and The Four Faces of Anger. A former Stress & Violence Prevention consultant for the US Postal Service, the Doc leads highly interactive, innovative and inspiring programs for corporations and government agencies, including the US Military, on stress resiliency/burnout prevention through humor, change and conflict management, generational communication, and 3 "R" -- Responsible, Resilient & Risk-Taking -- leadership-partnership team building. Email for his popular free newsletter & info on speaking programs. Check out his popular website -- -- called a "workplace resource" by National Public Radio (NPR). Stress Doc Mantra: "Think out of the box, perform outside the curve (the Bell Curve) and be out-rage-ous!"

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